There’s something to be said for being an example. You understand that when your kids are toddlers, right? You suddenly get very conscious of your mouth and what comes out of it. You get very conscious of how you respond to them. It’s a raised awareness that comes with tiny ears that repeat everything you say and try to do everything you do.

When they’re teenagers, you seem to forget this, though. Why? Because teenagers are somewhat trying at times. Okay they’re very trying at times. They know how to push buttons and they do it. They are spreading their wings, pushing limits, and learning….and sometimes it’s a bit hard on parents (and teens) to live with. The thing is that teenagers very much learn from what you do. On top of that, they are the first to question what you do. Why do I have to sit at the table for dinner if you don’t? Why do I have to go on the hiking adventure if you’re not? Why do I have to say thank you for dinner if you don’t?

Here’s the reality…..

Your teenager is watching everything you’re doing for two purposes: they want to emulate you and they want to tell you how everything you’re doing is stupid. Quite a strange position, isn’t it? The point is that you need to be an example to them. Of course there is a time and a place for “because I’m an adult” but this is not to be overused. It’s more important to save this for pressing issues that actually have an age limitation. Just like you did with your toddler, take the time to be an example for your teenager. You’ll thank yourself in the future.